Monday, February 26, 2018

Being Right versus Saving Lives ~ Your Choice!

I have a tremendous capacity for BS, but last week challenged the eff out of me. This week looks like that feeling could continue. Here is my effort to provide a response that does not reflect the actual rage I feel inside. 



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THIS is exactly what I have talked to school administrators about in our district! THIS is one area where we need to focus our efforts. I can't tell you how many times I was at my child's middle school when she was having difficulties. (2 years ago). The Vice Principal called a severe anxiety attack "teenage drama" when a friend of my daughter's had an episode. The substitute teacher did not handle the situation correctly. She placed her hands on the student and when my daughter tried to help her friend, the substitute grabbed my child too.




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Before I continue my rant, let me clarify...

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There are many wonderful teachers out there too.  Teachers need to be acknowledged for the tremendous responsibilities they have. Their pay will never sufficiently compensate them for the education, time, energy, and dedication that is involved in preparing our children for the future. As someone who has been a part of the educational system, I have an understanding and awareness of how much teaching requires of you on many levels.  We love our kids. We provide supplies using our personal finances. We make sure we have "extras" on hand for days when our students don't have what they need.  We teach with our hearts. 



 Please know that I advocate for you to have:


1. Improved availability of resources.
2. Class sizes that are reasonable and ensure you are able to meet the needs of each student.
3. Counseling that is available throughout the day and enough for the number of students enrolled.
4. Resources that provide valid referrals for families to cope with an array of concerns before they get out of hand.
5.  Administrative supports from the highest levels.
6. Salaries that reflect your expertise and commitment to our children.
7. Recess and Brain Breaks for students who learn best when allowed to move around, are exposed to experiential learning opportunities, and not made to sit still and be quiet at lunch time for fear of losing their outside play times.  
8. Opportunities to discuss safety, strategies for dealing with concerns about your students, and a protocol that is easy, quick, and effective for reporting and dealing with those concerns. 

I know there are so many more things to include, and this list barely scratches the surface. I have had this article on my mind today since I first posted it, and realized I really needed to add this.  I care about teachers and deeply fear for their safety as well as the children's.  We need to listen to what teacher's and students are saying.   



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We have some teachers, subs, and administrative staff who do not know how to de-escalate situations or freeze when confronted with certain situations. (I've seen first hand that trained counselors and therapists also have these moments.  It's called being human.) We have counselors who are overwhelmed due to sheer number of students and lack of resources or support from their administrators. We have students who would benefit from learning coping/communication/problem solving skills.


Unfortunately, not everyone is comfortable 
with the all of the ages and stages of child development.



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I have documentation of teachers being sarcastic, confrontational, and verbally/emotionally abusive toward children. When I reported it to the superintendent, I was advised that the teacher's right to privacy superseded my right as a parent to find out what corrective measures would be put into place. Our kids need to be heard and protected.  Bullying appears in many forms. When this begins in school at a young age and continues without intervention, those experiences create enormous problems.


When I spoke with that vice principal, I pointed out how incorrect he was to label anxiety as "drama." I told him, "Don't minimize the feelings of these kids. That's how problems get out of hand." I told him teachers deserve to receive better resources and training to deal with student incidents. I highly recommended that ALL staff have non-violent CPI training. I told him I did not want to hear him ever again label a mental health and wellness concern as "drama." That was TWO YEARS ago!


If these things are happening in your school districts, you need to make sure everyone in your child's school KNOWS your name! Make your concerns heard! Write emails, provide recommendations, offer to teach a class regarding community resources that are available. GET INVOLVED! Don't sit back and say, "Just arm teachers with guns." That's like saying, "We don't need to do surgery for that open wound. Just slap a band-aid on it and we'll hope for the best."  Think about how we can provide supports to teachers in the classroom. 


If you're not an attention to detail person, fine. But don't ignore the individuals who might be good at those details. We need attention to detail. We need individuals who can see the consequences of strategies and figure out where the gaps are in these plans we want to make. It's in the attention to detail that we can begin to effect the types of changes we desperately need to see.


It is easy to do that? No. It is best practices to consider the gaps so nobody falls through any more? YES! And for the love of money, stop saying we have all the laws we need in place. Stop saying we want to take away your right to own guns and defend yourselves. Stop making excuses and blaming everyone who doesn't subscribe to your viewpoints. Not everyone has the same experiences, world view, or personal issues. So just STOP! Put your freakin' egos on the side and think! You want to be right, or do you want to save lives! JUST. STOP. #FightBack4Students #WorldofWriterMom #WriterMomAdvocate






Concerns as evidenced on social media:


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We have individuals in our presence who exist in an all or nothing society. 

We have groups of individuals who refuse to see beyond their per view or personal life experiences.

We have conspiracy theorists who would make fabulous movie script writers, but have a difficult time considering the existence of other factors. 

We have divided into factions where each group wants to win the prize for who is the most righteous and relevant.  

Since the beginning of time we have seen humans set up their camps and assign leadership, all while attempting to convince others to join their side. 

History continues to repeat itself, and we continue to show a lack of awareness for ourselves and for each other. 

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Challenges of Parenting & Reasons I Love Being a Mom


My List of Ten


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Challenge 
#1

Teaching children how to stand up for themselves is hard.
You want them to be respectful, and you want them to be capable 
of defending themselves too. It's a fine line and requires finesse.



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Reason I Love Being a Mom
 #2

I love hearing how my children stand up for what they believe
is right, just, and necessary.  They DO listen to me even though
some days it does not feel like they hear a word I say.

  

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   Challenge 
#3

 Allowing children to speak what is on their mind requires
endless patience and a willingness to let go of your own ego.



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Reason I Love Being a Mom
#4

I have learned that I can let go of my desire to prove I am "right"
all the time. Guess what?  Sometimes I can be totally wrong!
Children need to know they have points too. When you are
willing to relinquish your perceived control when the stakes 
are low, you are in a better position to call in 
the "Mom Card" on subjects that truly matter
 in terms of your child's physical, emotional, and 
social well being.  Pick your battles 
or the small nit picking crap will haunt you.



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Challenge
#5

Sharing your experiences, concerns, worries, and expectations often sucks. 
You want to impart wisdom in ways
 that help children develop an understanding 
of how to act and respond in today's world.
Figuring out how to manage these concepts can be tricky.
Each child processes information and assimilates it differently.




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Reason I Love Being a Mom
#6

 When I see how my children interact with others, 
how caring they have become,
and how much they love and respect those with whom 
they have connected, it makes me feel incredibly
 proud of the amazing young people they are.
 We are each on a journey here on earth, 
and it is so important for each of us to realize 
how we can use our gifts, talents, and interests
 to make the world a better place to live.



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Challenge
#7

Exhaustion.  Sometimes I need to remind my 
children, "Mommy is a human mommy, not
an android."  We get tired too. It's part of the 
whole parenting deal. Accepting that these
moments happen is necessary. It's okay to
take a step back and admit it's time for a break.
(Sometimes that means dropping everything and
just getting on the floor to play, listen to the kids, or
watch a movie together. The dishes can wait.)




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Reason I Love Being a Mom
#8

Teaching my children how to develop self help skills,
life skills, and coping skills that will encourage them
to pursue independence is a wonderful way to build
their self confidence.  When I see them self initiating
tasks, it helps me realize that I am doing a good job.  
(Believe me, we still are a work in progress. But I do
feel encouraged every time someone empties the dish
washer or takes out the trash without being asked.)




Challenge 
#9

Holidays, special occasions, and family get-togethers.
Sometimes it can be hard to live up to the
perceived expectations.  I never thought I would
be as great at pulling off  birthdays, Christmases,
and other special events the way my mother could. 
She is a way better chef, baker, and entertainer than
I could ever hope to become. I have learned to be 
okay with my own way of taking care of my 
family and friends.  It is always worth the challenge.



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Reason I Love Being a Mom
#10 

 I have written about this many times, but it is worth
repeating for this post.  I have three bio-children 
and several kiddos I consider my "bonus children."
They have taught me to venture outside of my
comfort zone, experience a variety of adventures,
taught me to be more social and interactive...even
though I'd often rather stay at home and snuggle on the 
couch with them to watch a movie...and take the
time to have fun.  They are my constant reminders that
God, the universe, and this crazy planet
have an incredible sense of humor and wisdom
for gifting me with these amazing children
and trusting me to bring them up to become 
decent humans.   World...I'm doing my best.


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Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary





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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Violent Strategies to Decrease Violence? How's that Working for Us?

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Our Children Deserve Better
by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez
 

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Dear individuals, conspiracy theorists, and those who have a difficult time seeing the world beyond their own back yards...


NOBODY is saying you cannot have your guns.

NOBODY is telling you they want to take away your right to bear arms.

NOBODY is indicating we intend to become a country where our citizens are unable to protect themselves. 


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What our children are now telling us is:



1. We are tired of being afraid to go to school.

2. We want to have a voice in how our lives are affected by mass shootings.

3. We need to have some realistic and tangible strategies in place that will educate, protect, and allow us to defend ourselves.

4. We want to ensure that protective measures are in place to delay, hinder, and/or prevent people from purchasing the type of weapons that have been used in mass shootings.


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Additionally...How about requiring non-violent crisis prevention intervention (CPI) classes for all of our students, teachers, and administrative staff ?


How about encouraging community based non-violent crisis prevention intervention (CPI) techniques so we can all learn how to de-escalate a situation ?

 



How about having a more effective method for reporting concerns, addressing threats, and establishing realistic protocols ?


 (FBI - you screwed up. Accept it. Acknowledge it. FIX it!)


Parents, Teachers, and ALL who are care for children...



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TIPS

Talk to your children.


Discuss a plan for worst case scenarios.



These talks need to happen on a regular basis as school
 and at home.


If you don't know how to have these discussions, seek the advice 
of professionals.


Learn how to be proactive and aware of your surroundings.


Learn about methods to protect yourselves in additional to gun use.

Thinking that increased access to guns is the solution to the problem with mass shootings is naive and gives a 

false sense of security.

Don't try to put a band-aid on a compound fracture.


Look beyond your personal experiences.


Start thinking about how the experiences of other people affect their interactions with you and with those you love.



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And above all...


SUPPORT those who have been traumatized. 


SUPPORT those who want to make change for the 
improved lives of our children. 


DON'T compare this problem to another problem and call it the same. Each situation demands our attention in a focused and deliberate manner. 


Smart alec memes, cartoons, and jabs at other groups tend to create a dissonance that only serves to divide versus unite us with a concrete set of solutions.


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You have a choice to make. 


Are you going to be part of the team that creates change and offers specific strategies, or are you going to be a part of the team that gossips and stirs up the burnt crumbs at the bottle of the stew pot?


You can be a conspiracy theorist all day long. But ultimately, how you respond to an emergency and how we work together to create pathways for change is going to be the difference between our self actualization or destruction.

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Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary








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Reminder for February

 Did you know?

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
More information available at  https://vetoviolence.cdc.gov/

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Tuesday, February 13, 2018

International Book Giving Day 2018



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 Happy Valentine's Day!
Plus...



Today is International Book Giving Day 2018


 A Wonderful Time to Give a Book!


The following recommended activities are listed by 






 Celebrate!

 
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Three simple ways to participate in 
International Book Giving Day 2017


1. Give a Book to a Friend or Relative.

Celebrate International Book Giving Day 
by giving a child a new, used or borrowed book.
2. Leave a Book in a Waiting Room or Lobby.

Choose a waiting room where kids are stuck waiting and there are few to no good books available. Purchase a good book, and deposit your book covertly or overtly in your waiting room of choice. The goal here is to spread the love of reading to kids, so choose a fun book, nothing controversial.
3. Donate a Book.

Wrap up a box of children’s books that your kids have outgrown and get them in the hands of children 
who could really use a book or two.



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Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary


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