Thursday, February 11, 2021

Ten Ways to Effect Positive Change

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Ten Ways to Effect Positive Change

by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez

(Originally published 2018)

My Crew

I'm just gonna put this out there to you. As an advocate, I believe it's important to not only draw attention to a concern or issue of our times, but to provide concrete examples of what we can do to effect positive change.

I follow some writers who are great about posting the things that are going wrong in our world, that we're all going to hell in a hot minute because there are so many sinners, that social injustice and racial inequality is rampant in our communities, and that "insert label/stereotype here" have no clue about the real facts.

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A favorite quote of mine:

"There is no greater joy nor greater reward than to make a fundamental difference in someone's life."
~ Sister Mary Rose McGeady, Children's Advocate

World of Writer Mom's List of Ten

Ways to Effect Positive Change

To effect positive changes requires a commitment

to some key concepts.

1. Facts/Valid links for research

2. Examples of situations/How it makes us feel (Anecdotal references) Avoid name calling, labeling, and stereotypes.

3. Statement of specific concern/problem

4. Identify possible solutions/strategies

5. Identify goals and measurable outcomes

6. Participate in plan of action

7. Follow up with progress and results.

8. Ensure supports and resources for continuation of plan.

9. Understand short term versus long term goals of change.

10. Encourage on going process and evaluation even when it feels slow.

These are the things that require a strong, patient, and consistent leader.

Something to think about.

How do you want to be seen? heard? represented?

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Personal Awareness Tips

What kind of changes do you hope to lead this year?

What kind of changes do you hope to support this year?

What kind of tone and attitude do you plan to promote?

How will you choose to respond to those who engage in name calling, divisive behaviors, and actions without solutions?

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Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,
~ Mary

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Sunday, December 20, 2020

Gifts from the Heart

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Gifts from the Heart

Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez

Originally published at Reflections Beneath the Poetz Tree

Holiday time and gift giving are chasing me again this year. There are people I want to acknowledge for all the amazing ways they show kindness, emotional support, and love throughout the year. This time of year leaves me breathless as I run toward that finish line that screams "Christmas." How to balance these feeling of generosity with the little Grinch of a Gremlin called "the budget" is a challenge that threatens to release the bah humbug in many of us. Here are some ideas that I recently unpacked from my holiday box of memories. Perhaps one of them will inspire you to create a gift that can be added to someone's treasury of holiday memories.

I was the oldest of seven children in our family. Each year my Dad would carefully print the Months, Days, and Numbers on a large blank calendar that he had picked up from an office supply store. (I assume that's where he found the item.) He then added every important event we needed to remember: Birthdays, Anniversaries, and Special Occasions. This was his hand written gift to my mother. She posted that large calendar by the phone (back in the day when phones were actually attached to the wall) and used that organizational tool to track all of our activities throughout the year.

We posted my dad's concerts (he played French Horn for the Army Band, Virginia Philharmonic Orchestra, the Virginia Opera, and various other venues). We also listed school activities and special projects that were due. At the end of the year, it was fun to look back on that calendar and see how much our family had done. I loved that calendar because it was so well written. My dad had excellent teacher style printing, but I knew it must have taken some time for him to make it look that nice.

Even if you don't want to hand write a calendar, there are many beautiful pre-printed ones that can serve the same purpose. Add special touches of your own: Favorite quotes, inspirational words of wisdom, or funny sayings sprinkled throughout each month. The gift of time spent adding those unique items makes the present a Gift from the Heart.
One year I purchased card stock from the craft store and cut each sheet into pieces the size of business cards. My three children and I added memories of special things to give to their grandparents. We included descriptions of special meals and favorite treats, movies we viewed together, holiday events, funny quotes, unique personality traits we love and appreciate, and even aromas that have left a lasting impressions. I added memories from my own childhood including things I enjoyed about growing up in a large family. My children even added art work on those tiny cards. We found a decorative box (there are many selections at the dollar store) and placed those cards into the box. A ribbon was added to complete the look and keep the box closed until its reveal. The hand written cards and art work took some time to complete, but turned into a fun activity with my children. It was a Gift from the Heart.
One year when I lived in Germany I found myself alone for Christmas. I decided to volunteer to make and deliver cookies through our church group. Baking helped me remember the amazing aromas associated with my Hungarian mother's cooking. I packaged the cookies in those cute little holiday tins, just like my mom did when I was a child. I received my mission to deliver cookies to the soldiers on guard duty for Christmas Eve. In my little yellow 1978 German Specs Volkswagon Passat (hey...I paid for it myself in cash for $550.00) I delivered those cookies. I could have been delivering gold given the response from those soldiers. Their smiles and heart warming thanks were all I needed to feel the spirit of Christmas. I no longer felt like I was alone, in a foreign country, far away from my family. I was also given a Gift from the Heart.

There are many ways to make a difference to others this year. I would love to hear from my readers about how you created a memorable moment and gave a Gift from the Heart. It doesn't have to cost a lot. It just needs a little time and a touch of creativity.

Have a wonderful week and thanks for taking time to read

this blog. You are appreciated!

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~ Mary

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Tuesday, December 1, 2020

Memories of Heidelberg on My Birthday

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Memories of Heidelberg

Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez

Originally published at Reflections Beneath the Poetz Tree

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This is a picture of Heidelberg with the well known, iconic castle in the background. It's a beautiful, sunny day in this version of the place where I discovered how much I enjoy adventure and travel. I arrived at the Frankfurt airport in Germany on my 18th birthday (many, many) years ago. It was December 1st, the year not important. We were met at the airport by a member of the U.S. Army Band who was tasked with transporting our large family to guest lodging at Patrick Henry Village in Heidelberg. Not knowing how much space a family of eight with baggage would require, the ginormous band bus had been sent with it's driver.

It was cold and it had recently snowed. We were all tired and hungry. I had been gifted with what every teenage girl dreads on this type of long trip, and I just wanted to curl up in a ball wrapped in a warm blanket. I needed some chocolate, a cola, and a bottle of Midol. Most of all, I wanted to sleep and forget about the plans I had left stateside. Happy freakin' birthday to me. Yet even with all those strange elements infringing on my impending life as a young adult, I believed that there was a plan for me there.

It's often hard to believe so much time has passed. When I allow myself to remember everything that has happened since that date, I feel incredibly proud of who I am and what I have accomplished. That's not easy for me to say. But I want to give myself permission to make that comment. I feel like I have worked hard to get to this point as a woman, as a writer, as a wife, as a mom, and as a human being who has survived some remarkable shit!

I have never fully written about all of my European adventures. So much happened during my time there that shaped who I am. Some of those moments will be featured in a novel I am writing. For today, I've decided to share some of the things that inspired me as a young adult living in a foreign country. Here's my "List of Ten" Hope you enjoy it!

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My List of Ten Memories

Inspirations from Heidelberg,Germany

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1.) I learned a new language and explored a new culture.

2.) My college experience was greatly different from what I had expected. I took classes in the evenings and on weekends and was typically the youngest student. I learned to appreciate the maturity of adult students who were serious about returning to school and held full time jobs. (Perfect tote for your commute to classes can be found here.)

3.) Learning different modes of transportation was liberating and increased both my confidence and my sense of independence. This was especially important since I did not have a car when I started working and attending classes at The University of Maryland - European Campus. I quickly learned to read the schedules and coordinate arrivals/departures to make sure I arrived on time for work and for school. (Military Bus,German bus, train, strassenbahn, bike, and even walked when necessary.) Learning to dress for the cold weather was critical, especially given the need to wait for arrivals.

4.) I was fortunate to encounter professional women in the field of Early Childhood Development who encouraged my interests and were willing to be mentors. I would not have been as successful without their guidance and support of my studies.

5.) I met my first "serious" boyfriend while attending college. Prior to college, I had very little dating experience. I was always content and blessed to have great male friends throughout high school who considered me more of a little sister than anything else. Thank God, because I wouldn't have known how to handle anything more.

6.) Taking the Literature Course on James Michener was incredibly challenging and I vowed never to pick up another one of those novels unless I needed it as a weight or door stop. But it was during that course that I met the professor who would coach me through one of the most difficult persuasive papers I've ever had to write. (That story is for another post.)

7.) I was fortunate to be able to live with my family on base for the first three years I lived in Germany. My father was stationed in Schwetzingen with the Army Band and frequently traveled for their performances. I worked full time with Army Child Development Services and begged to work as many hours as possible, even if it meant hopping a bus to go across town and put in hours at another child care center. Those hours allowed me to pay for my own classes, so I graduated without any tuition debt. That was a gift! I'm not sure I could have done that stateside.

8.) Mentors in Child Development supported my efforts to convert to a civilian paid position when it was time for my father to return stateside. I moved into a tiny basement apt. in Oftersheim close to work. I had my first place at the age of twenty. My family relocated stateside shortly before my twenty-first birthday. That was a huge deal! Looking back, I realize how hard that must have been for my parents. My seventeen year old sister stayed with me to finish her quarter for high school and celebrated my birthday with me. We boarded a plane right before Christmas and spent the holidays with family. She stayed and I returned. It was hard to be without them. When my sister was still in Germany, it didn't hit me so hard. But it was better for her to get back to my parents, because I think I was a pretty crappy substitute. I know she needed to be fed more than microwave dinners and M&M's. I'm just glad we at least had that time to survive together.

9.) I learned how to manage my own money and pay my own bills. Overseas calls were expensive. I learned that the hard way. My first car was an old, German specs, yellow Volkswagon Passat. It drove like a tank. It was solid and unyielding. Not a pretty car at all! But it was mine. Paid $550 cash for it plus insurance. When that gave out on me, I bought a new Honda Civic Dx. I had to arrange to pick it up at Bremerhaven. The car dealer who sold it drove me and two other people (also picking up cars) in his convertible to meet a bus. That bus took us the rest of the way to Bremerhaven. That entire day was an adventure.

10.) Traveling was one of the best bonuses of my time overseas. I have a love for adventure, even though my sense of direction sucks. Somehow, I managed to navigate travel systems in no less than five languages. I'm not saying I'm fluent in all those languages, but I am comfortable enough with the basics. For someone who traveled before cell phones and GPS was readily available, I think I was pretty bad ass for attempting what I did. I loved every minute too!

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My birthday sparked a rush of memories and emotions for me as I recalled all the awesome, crazy, and sometimes scary things I made myself experience. The Heidelberg memories are some of the best because they helped define what I wanted out of life. Whenever I start to feel stressed by something I am currently dealing with, I can look back and say, "But look what you did when..." There's a lot of material to serve as a resource and as an inspiration.

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Thanks for taking a few minutes to share this list with me. I hope it will encourage you to start your own "List of Ten" as a way to get through whatever difficulties you might face.

Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
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Kindest Wishes,
~ Mary

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Thursday, February 11, 2021

Ten Ways to Effect Positive Change

Sunday, December 20, 2020

Gifts from the Heart

Gifts from the Heart

Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez

Tuesday, December 1, 2020

Memories of Heidelberg on My Birthday

Memories of Heidelberg

Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez