Monday, June 24, 2019

LIfe of A Vacuum - and other clean up tales

 A drama about cleaning your child's room
Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez


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I truly feel bad for what we have put our vacuum cleaner through lately.  My children are not of the ordinary, simple, garden variety species.  They create, play, and make messes like nobody's business. I don't know where to begin when I enter their rooms.  Yes, I do expect them to help, but sometimes the room begs for my version of "Mom approved clean."  You know what I'm talking about!

 They look so sweet and incapable of the exploits I share.
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Kids version of cleaning up is as follows:

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Basic surface level only clean up. (The superficial, fake clean.)
 
 Anything fits into a garbage bag.  No sorting required.  
 
No need to throw away wrappers, empty containers, or papers.  

 
It's perfectly acceptable to throw away dirty socks, underwear, & items that have become ripped when you don't want mom to find out. (Even though she already knows when you complain there are no underwear or socks in your room.)
 
 Mixing of items in a bag is okay.  In fact, mixing wrappers with clothing is ideal.  No time to decide what goes where anyways!
 
 Small items not easily seen (but able to inflict pain upon impact) are to be left on the carpet.  It's more fun to watch the vacuum wheeze, smoke, and grind to a halt.
 
 Dirty dishes, glasses with toxic sludge, and dinner plates that won't be missed (according to a child's point of view) might end up in the throw away bag if you can get it out the door quickly. 
 
 It is assumed that Mom will forgive the nails (toe, finger, and picture hangers), push pins, tacks, screws, and miscellaneous home improvement tools on the floor if she is able to safely extricate them from her feet, hands, and fingers. 
 
 (Mom chuckles maniacally at the idea of "home improvement" items entering a child's room unaccompanied by a responsible adult.)  Yet, that is exactly where these items magically navigate by none other than "Not Me"  and "I Don't Know."
 
 Tools find their way to the room, probably out of loyalty to the push pins, nails, and screws in the carpet.
 
Spare change has an amazing ability to end up in corners, under furniture, and even inside clothes baskets.  

I have a nice jar started toward my future retirement.


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 Mom's Version of Clean-Up is as follows:


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 Enter room to assess the damages. This involves looking 
in  the closet too! 

Take your anti-anxiety medication to reduce the heart palpitations and quell that dizzy, nauseated feeling.

 Affix large garbage bag to the door knob. (Throw out 90% of what you find.)

 Begin piles for clothing in the hall or living room, which ever is the nearest place to toss darks/lights/whites/towels, etc...

 Start sorting!  Be prepared for the stench of ass and frustration.
 
It's best to let your mind wander to your happy place as you scrape gum off the base boards, pull sticky candy from the carpet, and carefully remove nails, push pins, screws, and pennies (Oh, soooo many pennies!) from the floor.

 Assign each item a new "home."  

 Put aside any items that require a "follow up" conversation with your child/children.  (You'll know what I mean when you find it.  No other explanations necessary.)

Leave the clean clothes in a pile for your children to fold and put away.  They at least need to do this!  (Once you have conversations regarding #8, it's unlikely you'll get too much resistance.)


Children old enough to wash their own clothing should do so.  If you're like our family, have the kids carry the laundry to the car and load it for a trip to the laundry mat.  

Have them help with all other aspects of this family adventure once you get there.  



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Hope these lovely lists help.  
Hope you at least laughed and found comfort 
 in the fact you are not alone.  





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I'm sure most parents struggle with the clean room dilemma. 
Hope your week is going well and your troubles are limited
 to whether or not your vacuum will survive. 


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Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges, peace,
and answers to your prayers.
Happy Summer!


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Kindest Wishes,
~Mary 








Monday, May 6, 2019

Moments for a Monday ~ 2019 (Post #6)

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Moments for a Monday
by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez

Copyright 2019 World of Writer Mom


"Our life is always under construction.
Sometimes it's subtle, and other times it's messy and inconvenient as hell.
Thankfully these messes are usually temporary.
Be gentle with yourself during those moments
 when it feels like the obstacles are never ending. You've got this!"
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It has been quite a while since I posted an article here. Most of my social media interactions have been diverted to developing a new group that I am excited to share! The creation of this new group started as closed, but due to circumstances that I'll share later this week, I was "encouraged" to open it up and make it public.  Since then, our group has grown and continues to flourish. Check us out!

 
My Moments for Monday are short this time. I am working on making things simpler, though this is often a struggle for someone who is hell bent on managing chaos. I've become so accustomed to on the spot problem solving that it feels weird when things are going well. That's effed up. So here goes my attempt at "simplifying" my thoughts for today. (No promised for tomorrow, though. I'm a work in progress.)



ONE

It would be incredibly awesome to get a good NIGHT'S sleep once in a while.  Our bed is a temporary one...an inflatable mattress that lasts for 6 months if we are lucky. While saving up for the ultimate mattress is a huge goal, I have to admit it is interesting that we could literally pack up our apartment in one vehicle if necessary. There's something liberating about not having "stuff" even though we would like to furnish and decorate our apartment one day.  I'd rather wait until we can afford it instead of putting crap on credit. I am especially interested in finding out the Ten Things That Are Better in Bed that I keep hearing about.




TWO

I actually read one entire book...and it only took me 6 weeks this time. I often long for those days when I became instantly infused into a book within seconds of opening up to the first page. Now, it takes forever to focus and get into the plot.  Maybe it's connected to that good night's sleep thing too. Who knows?  I can't wait to find that next great opportunity to read!  Here's a couple of adventure packed books that you'll love! (They did not take me 6 weeks! I picked them up and read them until the end.) Can't wait for more of Katherine's books to come out. She's an amazing author! The secret is out! Get a hold of these before summer and toss them into your travel bags!


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THREE

It's that time of the year when schools will let out for Summer and vacation plans will be made. Whether you stay at home or travel away from your home base, there will be opportunities to keep the kids busy and allow them to entertain themselves too. I am still trying to figure out those details and feel like time is running out...the same feeling that often arises before end of the year celebrations like Christmas.  Find out how you can plan your dream destination this Summer! Whatever you plan, make sure THIS is part of your travel gear.  From picnics to sporting events to concerts and movies beneath the stars, this huge blanket will be a big, comfortable place marker for your family and friends.  Just in time for your SUMMER of Fun and ADVENTURE! FIRST AID KITS available here.



  
That's all! My list of THREE instead of TEN for this week's
Moments for a Monday.

Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,

~ Mary

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Thursday, March 14, 2019

FRIDAY MORNING INSPIRATIONS (Coping with Grief) ~ MARCH 2019

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Last year at this time our family was coping with the loss of our father shortly after he was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. It was devastating, overwhelming, and emotionally numbing at times.  The past couple of weeks have crept up on me like a child who creeps up to your bed at night, peers over the edge of the bed, and whispers, "Mommy!" The jolt of those moments is real and instant and makes you feel bad when you shout back in shock. For me, it seems like my emotional connection to my father's death was suspended; waiting in a corner of my mind as if in a temporary, long-term time out.  The past two weeks have nudged those emotions back to the center of the room and away from the corner.  It has been a bitch! And I have tried to embrace it.


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These emotions of grief and abandonment have shaken me by the shoulders and screamed at me that it's okay to cry.  And so I have cried at damned near everything.  My chest has been heavy with sadness while my neck and shoulders have ached; all this pain from failed attempts to quell the weepy emotional mess of memories that continues to surface. I want to call my siblings and talk to them about what each of us experienced individually and when we were assembled together. Yet I cannot make myself pick up the phone and make those calls.  I don't know what to say or how to effectively share my experiences when I am worried how it will appear to them.



It is hard to explain how precious those moments were to me. The moments we had together as a family meant so much and yet, I feel like my contributions were not nearly enough.  I always wish I could have done more, been more, and understood better.  It is hard to let go of those flashbacks in my memories through each of those last days with my father. Now I wonder how each of my siblings is dealing with their own recollection of the events.  I want to know. I really do. But maybe we're not all ready.  One year has gone by so fast, and yet...so many moments feel like they are suspended in time, waiting for us to deal with them.



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Dealing with grief is hard, painful, and soul searing at times.  Each of us has our own starting point, and we often take many different paths toward resolution of our loss.  Today, I am offering ten things I miss about what happened last year as we gathered together one more time as a family to say good-bye and comfort one another. This is what I have to offer at the moment, and I hope my siblings will see it and know how much I love and care for them.





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Wednesday, March 13, 2019

PLAY UNTIL YOUR CLOTHES ARE DIRTY!

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Monkey Bars, Mud Pies, and Movement
by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez
 
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PLAY UNTIL YOUR CLOTHES ARE DIRTY!


💜
 
It's O.K. to let the kiddos enjoy a water play fountain or mud puddle once in a while.  One of the best memories I have from childhood is when my younger brother and I played in a huge mud puddle outside our home.  We were covered in mud and totally soaked in dirty water.  My parents, unbeknownst to us, were filming our antics.  They have the evidence that I encouraged my brother to dip his hair into the filthy muck and we both laughed as the muddy water trickled down his face when he lifted his head.  We had a blast and I'm still amazed that my parents actually let us do that.  My mother said that she never could get all that mud out of our clothing no matter how many times she washed them.  But that memory is priceless. 


Documenting Priceless Memories is an Investment 
in Your Family's History! 








Don't worry, my brother got me back many times over.  He could tell me a story with a straight face and I always believed him.  I kinda still do.  His jokes are legendary and I love it when he sends me my favorite "Far Side" cartoons.  But the amount of fun we had as kids often involved getting as much mud, dirt, and water on ourselves as possible before the street lights came on at night.





  Let's paint, create with play dough, cook in the kitchen, 
and make blanket tents! 

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Kids need lots of opportunities to explore, play, and get messy.  I remember a day when I took my three children to a park right after it rained.  I had not anticipated the play area would be so flooded.  The kids were restless and didn't care that the ground beneath the swing set was muddy.  They had been in the house all day and needed to play.  I hadn't planned for it, but went ahead and let them get messy.  They laughed, had fun, and even made up stories to go along with their muddy adventure.  I couldn't help but laugh with them as I recalled my own muddy memories.  We finally decided to go home when it became too chilly and the wind picked up.  I didn't even mind the clean up of both car and kids following our visit to the park.  




Here are a few things to remember if it's hard for you 
to get on board with the tremendous messes 
that come with childhood:

Kids LOVE Projects!



1.  Kids are washable.  A bit of bath water and some soap and most of them clean up pretty well.  😉


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2.  Messy memories are some of the best.  We also loved lots of finger painting (that often reached beyond their finger tips), 
play dough, cookie creations (lots of flour everywhere), and bubbles. All of these required clean up.

Documenting family memories 
is a great way to preserve your history! 













3.  Dirt, sand, and grass stains were the result of many creative play adventures.  Kids learn through play. 
 Let them have opportunities to explore and get messy! 
Then take them to the laundry mat for a whole new adventure!  (Lol)

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4.  Don't worry too much about the clothes. They outgrow them pretty fast anyways.  Also, shop at thrift stores like Good Will and The ARC to save on clothing costs.  Then you won't feel as bad when the clothes get messed up. Save other clothes for special occasions if you'd like, but be prepared to take pictures right after putting them on the kiddos.  Chances are, that adorable outfit won't stay clean very long. 

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5.  Kids LOVE projects!  When my siblings and I were growing up, my mother signed up to receive craft kits once a month.  This kept us occupied and allowed our family to create some incredibly fun things: Candle making, Macrame plant hangers, Decoupage decorations for the wall, Cross stitch Christmas ornaments, and so many more! 




CREATIVE PROJECTS for KIDS

Grow and Make




I have to remind myself on a daily basis that messes comes with childhood.  Now that my three children are much older, I do have expectations that they pick up their room and try to keep the house clean.  (And that battle is for another blog.)



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As I write this, their rooms reflect a disaster of epic proportions and I am trying to breathe through the trauma that occurs when I walk past their door....one I try to keep closed.  But for now, I'll smile at the messy memories as we work toward that next stage in their development. 

Happy Thursday everyone!









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Wishing everyone a wonderful week filled 








with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!





Kindest Regards,
~ Mary










Preserve your memories!


 





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Sunday, February 24, 2019

Moments for A Monday ~ 2019 (Post #5)


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Note: a variation of this post was published 11/27/2016 and is still relevant.
It covers a topic that has arisen this weekend, so I decided to edit and share it again.
We never know when something we say or do will have a lasting effect. Sometimes, it's
important to remind ourselves that our role is not to become recognized for those moments,
but to live with intent that it could make a difference. Keep writing your stories!



I have the honor of reading the most incredible stories thanks to Twitter, Face Book, and the many writers I meet courtesy of our internet connections. These are the individuals who inspire me and ignite the fire that keeps my writer's soul warm and open to whatever I need to share. I found this article on Twitter. It was published by The Washington Post.
 I hope you will take a moment to read it. 

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This article, written by a Pediatric Nurse, is a great reminder to all of us that we have important work to do today.  Although Mondays can be difficult, we can choose to see it as another opportunity to make a difference in:


1. How we interact with each other.
2. The attitude we take to our places of employment.
3. The meetings (both scheduled and spontaneous)where we will 
     use our voices for positive communication.
4. Our ability to collaborate in a loving manner.


Even when our situations seem grim and filled with unanswered questions, there is a way to manage the emotions that often threaten our personal wellness.  Sometimes, individuals are put into our path to heighten our awareness and encourage us to make necessary changes.  We can either choose to ignore those cues or embrace them for the inspirations they create. 


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I wish you a week filled with adventure, resolution of your concerns, and a list of at least 3 inspirational moments that occurred for you.  Please come back and share them with us at the end of your week!  I hope you will also follow me on Twitter at: 

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Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,

~ Mary






Thursday, February 14, 2019

TEN THINGS A WRITER MOM NEEDS 2019 (Article #1)

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Written by: M.B.Varville-Rodriguez


Copyright 2019 WorldofWriterMom


ONE
Comfy Shoes and the ability to Move Around



It's important to have mobility so you can change scenery, direction, and position. A writer thrives when given the opportunity to look at the world in a new light. Allow your feet to experience support and comfort with these Tiosenbon Knitted Sneakers and sneak away from home for a few moments.  Allow those thoughts to process while you go for a walk or travel in comfort.  Use the links in this article or just click on the pics to purchase your own!

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TWO
A cup of hot tea


Have something beautiful available as you make your hot tea. Enjoy a soothing beverage while you write and spill the tea. I have loved the sensation of brewing herbal tea and sipping this heart warming, soul softening liquid since childhood.  I loved it when my mother would bring out her beautiful ceramic teapot, steep a few bags of chamomile and Lipton's black tea, and pour a mug of this brew with some sugar and (if we had a tummy ache) a teaspoon of Christian Brother's Brandy. Always made me and my siblings feel better.  There's something incredibly comforting in the ritual of sipping (and spilling) tea.  Here's a treasure for you to begin your own traditions.

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THREE
A Cool Logo



So admittedly, I am still searching for a design I can settle on. In the interim, I am having fun as I try out different logos; allowing myself time to be creative.  It's a process.  Here's a reasonably priced company that often offers discounts and is willing to work with you to develop a concept for you website.  


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FOUR
Pain Management for Periods


Parenting and writing are challenging enough without the added stress of painful periods every month. (Sometimes more than once a month.) I recently discovered this strategy and definitely wished it had been available earlier in my feminine journey. It's always best practices to have this conversation with a trusted health care professional.  Having multiple pain relief options that minimize the risk of side effects can be a relief, especially when you have a busy schedule and deadlines to accommodate.  LIVIA can help you live the lifestyle you desire.

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FIVE
A safe, ergonomic way to carry baby
(without killing your back!)

Sometimes my best ideas show up while I am "momming."  Sometimes my best "momming" happens when I am looking for a way out of my writer's block. Getting out of the house and out of my head works well for everyone!  Here is an ergonomically designed infant carrier that will give you the freedom to work outside of home on your next writing assignments (the brain storming part) while enjoying time with your little one.  Take a walk, go to the store and people watch (great place to get ideas for your characters), or hold baby while you type out a few lines at home on your computer.  The MiaMily carrier has what you need! You'll fall in love with all the options while you and your baby experience adventures near and far. 

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If you prefer a wrap, this company (Boba,Inc.) has additional options for your consideration!  Check out the fabulous colors and designs created for your unique style! Select your favorite and share your style in the comments section. 



Six
Simplify your photo designs and graphics


Photolemur 3 puts the creative control back into your hands with this program. Take advantage of the incredible Valentine's Day deal. Let Photolemur do the hard work so you can focus on making your site content shine.  Photolemur 3 is a smart choice for the busy writer mom.  

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Seven
Take care of yourself too. Make time to exercise!


Be active! Sometimes it's hard to schedule in a workout when you're busy caring for baby, planning and writing your next article, and managing all the responsibilities that go along with these tasks.  I always say I'm raising my human babies along with my literary babies.  Is it possible to balance those responsibilities? Yes. Is it easy? No. No it isn't.  But you can make sure you have access to the resources necessary for your success.  Here's another strategy for taking your brain -storming sessions on the road.  You and your baby will love spending time together as you travel in style with Summer Infant strollers.  


EIGHT
Create a kick ass office space


Having a dedicated home office where you can work on your projects will set the stage for a successful home business.  Keeping track of supplies (for you and for your children's projects) creates a focused space where chaos is minimized and productivity is maximized.  Find your peace and create a writer's world that highlights your bad ass mom skills too. This chair is advertised for "gamers" but who says it has to be for video games?  You decide how to get your game on. Write and create in comfort and style with this beauty! 

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Keep your design materials and project files organized!
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Surround yourself with beautiful textiles in a variety of colors and textures.  
Select fabrics that make your heart happy and  feel your spirit soar in your creative pursuits.

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NINE
Sleep! Tired Writer Moms need SLEEP!
                                                            
Writers and Moms have a lot in common. We tend to stay up way too late and many of us are missing out in the "good sleep" department. Writer Moms have even greater challenges when it comes to acquiring the best sleep possible. We often try to get our writing done when the kids finally get to bed, and get so caught up in our characters that we forget to go to sleep.  Instead of allowing ourselves to get sucked into the wormhole of parenting and writing, how about making sleep so comfortable and enticing that we schedule it into our routine?  And stick to it!  Here's a couple of options that will have you looking forward to settling in at night and setting some much needed boundaries.

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Step two:
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Work with baby next to you! 
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TEN
Stay well hydrated


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 A well hydrated writer mom is important for everyone!




Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,

~ Mary