Monday, January 28, 2019

Moments for A Monday ~ 2019 (Post #3)


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MOMENTS THAT INSPIRE CHANGE

Written by: Anashea Remington


Have you ever woken up on a Monday and felt like things were a little off? Perhaps someone said something to you or an event happened that left you with a sick feeling in your belly. Maybe you were cut off in traffic one too many times, and you began to wonder if it just wasn't your day to be on the road with humans.  Whatever is was, how did you handle the situation?  Did you allow those effed up feelings to ruin your day, or did you transform those emotions into something more manageable?

That's where I am today, dear readers.  I was doing fine when I woke up. The snow had started to fall and covered the car, but it was the powdery snow.  It wasn't the "stick to your windshield" icy kind that needed to be chiseled off while the defroster was set to "high" in the car.  All the kids got to school on time, and I even made breakfast for myself.  Eggs, sausage, toast, and fruit fueled my energy for the day. I planned to get appointments set, words written, and a few project started around the house.  Then the phone call came.


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It would be different if I hadn't been so understanding of the many eff ups that my husband has pulled over the past 20 years.  It would be different if he had been there for me during the challenging moments in our relationship.  I don't even care at this point that I'm writing all this down, because he truly doesn't give a crap about my writing goals and never reads my stuff anyways. (Neither does my family, so I'm sure this will go unnoticed too.) So I'm going to go ahead and let it rip because quite honestly, I'm effin' tired of the emotional turmoil that this individual has put me through over the years.  So for him to call and complain about the finances when he's not even here to understand that children grow and need clothes and shoes, food is expensive and I don't have a walk-in freezer/refrigerator like he does at work (he's a chef) for a SYSCO order every week, (thus the higher cost of food since I don't buy in bulk), and I cannot work outside the home because all three of our children have chronic medical situations that keep me on a rotating schedule with their doctor.  On top of that, I am still recovering from a car accident.  




So this is one of those moments that inspires change. 
I am tired of being told I don't do enough.  
Here are Ten Things that I do to keep our little family together.




1.Pay the bills. I manage this extremely well on one salary.
2.Our only outstanding debt is the car payment and child's tuition.
3.We have NO credit card debt.
4.We have paid CASH for all family emergencies.
5.We have paid CASH for holidays and special occasions like birthdays.
6.We do not live beyond our means. 
7.We shop at thrift stores for most of our clothing.
8.We know how to put together meals from whatever is in the pantry. 
9.We do not buy what we do not need.
10.I make sure our children can participate in school activities even when our budget is tight.





Would I like to return to work where I get a paycheck? YES
Would it affect our current routine where I can drop off/pick up the kids? YES 
Do we really need that extra pay check? Sure. It would be nice.
Is it worth sacrificing my health and well being or that of our children at the moment? NO.


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So what can I do to deflect the anxiety that occurs when I receive one of these phone calls?

1.Tell myself I am not the one with the issue. I am doing my best.
2.Find ways to deflect the stress that is thrown my way.
3.Acknowledge that this situation is temporary, and that one day I will be able to put aside more for savings.
4.Continue to do my best to manage our finances even when it feels tight.  
5.Resist the pressure to buy on credit. It will only make the problem worse.
6.Continue to work on my personal goals to publish, create a side income for my family, and look for other work from home opportunities.
7.Reassure husband that we are doing well, considering many families are in over their head with debt.
8.Pray and hope the choir of angels rains a shower of pennies upon me.
9.Remember that I had a full career and an excellent resume of skills prior to starting my family, and I have continued to gain new skills since then.
10.My story here is not over yet. I still have a lot left to accomplish. So even if my family does not see that at the moment, I need to remind myself that my time will come.  The ingredients are still simmering.  ~ Anashea Remington






Remember that Wednesday is your opportunity to share a story.
Writer's Prompts are revealed on FACEBOOK page
One story will be selected for publication here
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Message me with your ideas.


Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,
~M.B.Varville-Rodriguez
 Publisher/Writer



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Sunday, January 6, 2019

Moments for a Monday ~ 2019 (Post #1)

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What inspired you this past weekend?
Did something bring back a special memory?
Share your memories and inspirations for the week.

Remember that Wednesday is your opportunity to share a story.


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Writer's Prompt for Wednesday
Driving home from vacation with your kids, 

a blizzard hits.
(Best story gets published.)
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A Special Memory from the years I lived in Germany, where I
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Wishing all of you a week of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,

~ Mary






Friday, January 4, 2019

FRIDAY MORNING INSPIRATIONS ~ JANUARY 2019

First Friday of 2019

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Starting a NEW YEAR creates a storm of emotions for me. There are the memories of things I had hoped to accomplish last year mixed with the guilt of what was left undone or incomplete.  I have lists of projects that will carry over into this year, new goals I will invest my time pursuing, and the never ending daily chores that will, in reality, NEVER get "finished" as long as I have breath in my body.  It's just the reality of our finite human existence. 

The writer in me becomes overly introspective. The mom in me looks at her children in wonder that another year has gone by, and they are growing up way too fast.  And there's nothing I can do to slow that process, even if I wanted that to happen.  Acceptance is a fickle bitch. And yes, this is the year when I send my internal editor on vacation with greater frequency...thus the uncensored "swear" word placed sporadically throughout my posts. 

So buckle up, dear readers.  I definitely feel the need to let loose and relax the many constraints I place upon myself.  It's time to let go of the fear that my writing will be judged and categorized in ways that make me uncomfortable.  But guess what?  If this writing endeavor is going to succeed, I've got to put myself out there and allow my literary children to grow and leave the nest too.  And we know how hard is can be to give our children the freedom to leave the nest.



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1. I want to open up this site to publish other writers too. Sharing the insights of others is important to me,
 and I enjoy promoting the talents of fellow authors.



2. Every Wednesday, I hope to add a writer's prompt and encourage anyone who wants to participate.  
One writer per week will be selected and highlighted here. 
 I will promote the article writer's personal author page, social media links, 
and help bring attention to the article. (Inviting you to participate!)



3. Working on additional pages for this site will include resources, favorite blogs, and book recommendations
 This is definitely a "carry over" from last year's goals.  
2019 is another opportunity to make it happen.



4. I hope to include my "human" children in highlighted articles too. 
 They have become creative, gifted writers in their own right. 
 I would love to invite them to share too.



5. Let's be honest. Writing is a real job, and as such it would be great to increase my revenue this year. 
 Time to branch out and submit more articles to outside publications! 



6. Travel is a big interest for our family. Learning ways to include our experiences and adventures 
as we write recommendations, reviews, and family focused activities 
will be a new challenge that we can work on together.  
A family that writes together...well, you get the idea.



7. This is the year that I will plan,label,and organize 
my articles, sift through project files, and get my house in order.
 (Literally and figuratively.)
Minimalism allows my brain to function better.
Time to remove distractions and FOCUS!



8. While I dream of improving my financial health and wellness as a writer, 
I also intend to promote my personal health and fitness
 This has been a huge challenge. 
I have been recovering from car accidents for quite some time.  
None of the accidents were my fault. (Rear-ended by inattentive drivers.) 
Physical Therapy has been a blessing.
I have tried dry needling, cupping, and myofascial release
 to alleviate the pain. 
This year I will continue to receive treatment and work on exercises at home.




9. It's important to recognize the value of staying fully hydrated. 
I love my (Pure Leaf) iced tea.  It is my favorite beverage.
I really need to remember that water is important too.  
Adding fruit to my water can help increase my intake. 
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It keeps my drinks super cold. It's perfect!





10. One of the most important factors I want to be more
mindful of this year is my need for peaceful meditation.
I crave quiet,calm moments that give me time to reflect.
These times are critical if I hope to re-energize.
When I ignore my personal needs, my soul suffers.
Let's remind each other to give importance to being still.
Nurturing our heart, mind, and spirit is necessary
as we work toward accomplishing our goals this year.


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Wishing all of you a YEAR of adventures,
solutions to your challenges,
answers to your prayers,
& resources to help you survive
all of your collaborative projects!

Kindest Wishes,

~ Mary