Tuesday, February 13, 2018

International Book Giving Day 2018



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 Happy Valentine's Day!
Plus...



Today is International Book Giving Day 2018


 A Wonderful Time to Give a Book!


The following recommended activities are listed by 






 Celebrate!

 
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Three simple ways to participate in 
International Book Giving Day 2017


1. Give a Book to a Friend or Relative.

Celebrate International Book Giving Day 
by giving a child a new, used or borrowed book.
2. Leave a Book in a Waiting Room or Lobby.

Choose a waiting room where kids are stuck waiting and there are few to no good books available. Purchase a good book, and deposit your book covertly or overtly in your waiting room of choice. The goal here is to spread the love of reading to kids, so choose a fun book, nothing controversial.
3. Donate a Book.

Wrap up a box of children’s books that your kids have outgrown and get them in the hands of children 
who could really use a book or two.



Picture the Bookroo logo and two children's picture books that we have shipped to customers in the past.


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World of Writer Mom is a proud participant
 & supporter of
International Book Giving Day!




Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary


Friday, February 9, 2018

Developing A Script for Respect



Communication Skills for Children
&
 Opportunities to Practice Dialogue
 (Critical components toward self-advocacy)


Sibling Support
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Parenting is a challenge times a bazillion.  Inspiring respectful behaviors and reminding children that what they say has an impact is a mind numbing, non-stop job filled with repetition.  Here are some of the phrases I find myself repeating not just once during the day, but often throughout our waking hours; these are the times when we are exposed to situations within our community where some members may think there's nothing wrong with crude language, racially inappropriate "jokes", and comments that are obviously racist or biased.

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Sample Phrases

 
1.  That word is not respectful and needs to be eliminated 
from your vocabulary.



2.  I know you may have heard that in a song/on the news/on line but here is the reason it's not O.K. to say that.  
(Insert explanation based on age/level of understanding)



3.  When you say that word, you are being disrespectful to me, your sister, and to other women.  
It's not funny or cool.



4.  I want you to think about the fact that one day 
you may have a child of your own.  
How would you feel if someone said that
 to your child/sister/brother/friend.



5.  Would you want someone to talk to you
 or about you using those terms?



6.  Please be respectful when I tell you, "NO".



7.  I expect you to act more respectfully and stop interrupting.



8.  I want you to have more respect for yourself than to copy what other people say or do, especially when you know 
we have talked about that (behavior/language) at home.



9.  Thank You for listening to me and helping me with the groceries.  I appreciate that respect.



10. I saw that you held the door open for that family.
  That was very respectful of you.



11. You cleaned your room without being asked.  
That shows me you have respect 
for your clothes and  games.



12. When you are kind to your (brother/sister/friend/parents) it shows me that you are growing into a
       mature young (woman/man).  
That's the kind of respect I like to see.



13.  Remembering to put things away and take care of what we have as a family is a great way to let
       me know you have respect for yourself and for all of us.



14.  I noticed that you comforted your (mom/dad/brother/sister/friend) when they were feeling sad .
(OR)
 Did you see when the (mom/dad/sister/brother/friend)
 put an arm around the child and calmly took them 
for a walk to settle down?  
That was nice of them to understand that it can be
       difficult to wait in line.



15.  Please remember to thank your (teacher/doctor/coach/librarian) for listening to your concerns
       and taking time to explain things to you.



16. I'm not trying to be mean to you.  I want to help you grow up to be a respectable young (man/ woman).



17. Respect (A one word cue is often the only reminder needed, especially when you discuss it on a regular basis.)



18. When you continue to show the same behavior 
that I have already told you is unacceptable, 
that means you are being "disrespectful" 
and it needs to stop!



19. I hope that you feel good when I compliment you 
on behavior that shows respect
 It also makes me feel better when I can compliment you.
(I don't like it when I have to keep bugging you about it.)





20. I am proud of you for making an effort to be respectful 
by avoiding inappropriate labels and 
walking away from jokes 
that are racist or target individuals 
who are being bullied. That's not okay!

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I invite you to share your resources, experiences, and strategies here at World of Writer Mom.


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Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary

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TEEN DATING

The topic of teen dating and recognizing the signs of an unhealthy relationship is on my calendar this month.  
Please look for upcoming articles and discussions.  
My daughter, who is sophomore in high school,
 will be one of the featured writers.  

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Did you know?

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
More information available at  https://vetoviolence.cdc.gov/

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Friday, February 2, 2018

The Art and Science of "Right" Resistance

My days typically begin and end in similar fashion.  I have two sons who are opposite in their ability to process sensory cues, concepts, and behavioral expectations. They often clash as they vie for position and power in their shared room. 


  Here's evidence from one of the peaceful moments I treasure.
When these two are at odds,
it's important to remember it's not 
all stress and trauma.
Bring out the photo books as needed!
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Today my two characters (now ages 12 and 10) decided to argue over who leaves the room in the most disarray. (Disarray sounds so much better than effed up mess.)  

Child #1 "You always leave your clothes everywhere!  Why don't you ever make your bed?

Child #2 "What are you talking about? You leave your stuff all over the apartment!"

Child #1 "I'm tired of cleaning up after you! Make your @&*# bed."

Child #2 "Stop telling me what to do all the time! You're not perfect!"

Me:  "OK it's time to go to school." (Edited to spare you the mom speak that transpired.)


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When I got my 12 year old into the car to drop him off at school, we had this conversation.

Me: "You know, there is a way you can put out that fire before things get so out of control."

12 year old:  "What do you mean, mom? (elevated voice)  Do you know what he said? He's always complaining about something! I'm so tired of it!"

Me: "I know. But at some point one of you is going to have to be okay with letting things go. What if you just told him, ' okay, I'll pick up my clothes and make my bed. I know it bothers you' ?"

12 year old:  "That's never going to work."

Me:  "You're right. It probably won't work the first time. It may not even work the second or the third time. But if you want things to change for the better, then it has to start somewhere."



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The issue between my sons is a great example of how many of us, even as adults, have a hard time backing down or admitting someone else may have a valid point.  We get so caught up in wanting to be right and relevant that the nuances of language and interpersonal communication get forgotten.  

Here are a few points to consider:

1.  You have permission to let go of an argument, especially when it begins to affect your personal health and well being. It doesn't make your opinions or views any less valid if you chose to take a break and rethink your position.  Let go of your need to be validated by someone with an opposing statement.

2.  If you realize that another person has a valid point, go ahead and acknowledge that point.  It may open the door and encourage others to do the same for you. Setting up camp is wonderful, but don't overlook the benefits of making your camp more comfortable and welcoming to visitors.  (Metaphor alert.)

3. Admitting you are wrong is actually a very mature skills, and too often we overlook the value of this skill.  It doesn't make you any less of a valued human being. Conversely, admitting fault has the potential for others to realize the same in themselves and create pathways toward communication.  We can all benefit from more ways to reach out and connect with others.

4.  Recognize that how we communicate, when we communicate, and the reasons we want to communicate have an impact on our ability to convey a message.  Consider your timing, strategies, and desired outcomes. Be okay when things do not go as planned with an initial attempt. Change is a process that requires time. patience, and perseverance. 
  

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There are so many reasons we seek validation as humans. We desire to be acknowledged. We hope our ideas will be accepted. There is an on going quest for that stamp of approval from those in positions of authority.  Learning how to navigate that need for approval is an ever present challenge. If you want to gain valuable insight into acquiring self acceptance skills and figuring out how to communicate your concerns, here are a few articles I found that might be helpful.  

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More Resources to Read
Note: Excerpts taken directly from article in posted links.


"The tendency to look at new evidence in a certain way, that confirms your existing hypothesis and conveniently ignore the facts that clash against your ideologies, has a fancy name in psychology:
Confirmation bias. Even the best of us have fallen for this bias."

https://chintanzalani.com/psychology-behind-seeking-validation-need/
* This author does drop a few "F" bombs in the article, so be forewarned.



"There are people whose minds are dead set on “I am right and you are wrong.” They are profiled as ones with big egos and very little empathy, specialists in continually raising disputes, capable craftsman in destabilizing harmony in every way.
Being right is something we all find satisfying, we can’t deny that. It reinforces our self-esteem. But most of us understand that there are limits, we know that it is vital to develop constructive attitudes, a humble outlook, and an empathetic heart capable of appreciating and respecting 
the views of others."
* This author provides stories to illustrate concepts.



"Take a moment and reflect on your relationships at work and at home and ask yourself, "how much does the 'I’m right, you’re wrong' dynamic play out in my everyday interactions?"
Most of us, if we’re honest with ourselves, will find this dynamic a familiar companion in face-to-face conversations, on the phone or in emails and (especially) online. Either unconsciously or consciously, we often find ourselves in situations where we feel we need to be right. And not only do we need to be right, but to be right we need to make the other party be or feel wrong."
  http://www.management-issues.com/opinion/5285/do-you-always-need-to-be-right/
*This author discusses our need to feel safe and secure.
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I invite you to share your resources, experiences, and strategies here at World of Writer Mom.


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Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary

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Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Parenting on a Monday ~ and Beyond! #2 in a Monday Series


BONUS: Monday's "List of Five" Mom Moments 
at the end of this post! 




~M.B.Varville-Rodriguez
 
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Today I though it was a perfect opportunity to share a question that came up in one of the groups I joined regarding regarding sensory concerns. 


 "Does anyone have a child who grinds
their teeth at night? What can you do? "

 
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World of Writer Mom Responded:

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I can tell when my daughter is stressed when she grinds her teeth at night. She's done this since she was a toddler and now is 15 years old. I encourage talking about feelings, discussing coping strategies, and offering other sensory experiences during the day. (According to age appropriate, understandable strategies.) A developmental pediatrician and dentist can be a great resource. If sensory issues are in play, then an Occupational Therapist who specializes in sensory integration can provide helpful alternatives that could help decrease the teeth grinding. Please let us know how things work out for you and what strategies end up being helpful. Best Wishes! There may be some items at this site to help with sensory concerns: 


 



 (Click on the link for "Biting" and check out the other calming strategies. Message me if you need info.)





Monday's "List of Five" Mom Moments




Just A Few Minutes of Peace

1. It is important for parents to take time for themselves.
It's not "selfish" but it is "self-filled."  




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 Create a Fun Meal and Memory with your children!


2. Parenting is can be so hard sometimes. It's easy to get lost in the fray of surviving day to day. Stop and take a few minutes to create a fun memory. It's when you and the kids are the most stressed that they (and you) need to do something silly and different. 

 
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 Lullaby and Good-Night, Parents


3.  Get some sleep. But not just any sleep. It's important to consider the quality of your evening slumber. A comfortable, supportive mattress, pillow, and bedding can make a world of difference.  For those evenings when the children climb into bed with you or for the rare moments when you can catch some solitary sleep, having a cozy nest to climb into is an incredible blessing!


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4. Discover what is near and dear to your heart. Find a way to promote your cause, start a fundraiser, or make a statement. We are parents who can make a difference in the world.  How will you chose to make your mark?
  


5.  Give yourself permission to let go of perfect parenting expectations. In an ideal world, we would all magically excel at breast feeding, never need special formulas for our children with sensitive stomachs, and blend our own home grown foods to create the best possible foods for our infants and toddlers.  If you are able to do these things even for a short time, that's wonderful! If you need some extra resources to round out your repertoire of stress management strategies, here's a couple of options:


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They Grow Up Soooo Fast!

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Wishing everyone a wonderful week filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary

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Monday, January 22, 2018

Parenting on a Monday ~ and Beyond!

BONUS: Monday's "List of Ten" Mom Moments at the end of this post! Today I thought it would be fun to share some helpful parenting products. Some of these products I knew about when I began having babies, and others are relatively new. So here are a few things that might make parenting a little less stressful. (How awesome to shop from home and have your products delivered!)


Nutritional Products
Supports Healthy Brain Development

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GERBER is a brand that is rich in family traditions. I remember Gerber in our home when I was growing up. As the oldest of six children, I became very familiar with the cereals, juices, formula, stages of jar food, and teething biscuits.  Even when we got older, I remember trying some of the foods when it came time to introduce them to a new sibling.  


One of my favorite flavors as a child (I would have eaten the entire jar of my brother's food) was called "Blueberry Buckle."  Now, Gerber has even more amazing flavors to select. Your infant, toddler, and preschooler will love the variety.  From new foods to nutritious snacks, you'll feel great about beginning your own GERBER traditions.



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These moments go by so quickly. I'd love hear about your
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Excellent for use before, during, and after pregnancy! 
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an expectant mother or a new mom.
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Monday's "List of Ten" Mom Moments


1.  I am learning to be content with the small successes and not
     get overwhelmed by all the things I still have to do.


2. Understanding that life is a process and nobody begins or ends 
    their time on earth with the stamp of perfection can be a relief.


3.  Having the self awareness to realize #2 can be the best gift you
     ever give to yourself!


4.  Remind yourself that each person has a different start point in
     terms of their spirituality. It is unfair and pointless to pass your
     judgment upon others in the name of religious righteousness


5.  I often remind my own children, "If it's not helpful, then don't 
     do/say it!"  I continuously remind myself to consider that same
     advice...especially when commenting on someone's site or other
     social media. There's a way to make your point without hurting
     someone.


6.  Be vigilant and aware of how stereotypes, labeling, and name-
     calling reduce the efficacy of your points.  There is a way you 
     can present a concern, dispute a claim, and state your case with
     dignity and respect for others and for yourself.


7.  One of the most effective methods to bring about the change you
     desire in the world is to live and lead by example.  Mocking 
     differences, what you do not understand, or things where you 
     have not done due diligence with your research will rarely, if
     ever, encourage people to change their views.


8.  Inspiring people by what you do, what you say, and how you
     present yourself has the power to motivate them.  You can't
     motivate other people, you can only motivate yourself! But you
     can be the source of inspiration that could push someone toward
     making the changes necessary to move forward and improve.
     (Apologies to Mikki Williams, a fabulous inspirational speaker!)


9.  Sometimes it takes a long, long, long time to reach your goals. 
     Be ready to sink into the mud and wade through it. It's not 
     always easy to take that difficult path, but it's going to be worth
     the adventure!  


10. List making is a great way to organize your thoughts and make
      sure your goals are prioritized. I have always loved making lists
      as one of my coping strategies.  Being a mom means those lists
      have become even more important!  And remember to put your
      own needs on that "to do" list! It's okay to take care of yourself!
    

            
Another one of my Independents
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Wishing everyone a wonderful week filled 
with challenges, adventures, &
plenty of resources to tackle your goals!

Kindest Regards,
~ Mary

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Recommendations do not imply liability, responsibility for disappointments or failed expectations, or regret over budgeting woes. I trust each reader to use their own good judgement when it comes to knowing what will work best for you and your family. (Because...well...I am not the ultimate decision maker, judge, or source of approval for anyone except myself...and my children...until they are legally allowed to represent themselves.)

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I have over 20 years of experience in Early Childhood Development Birth-Age 5 including work in classrooms and as an Infant/Toddler Program Manager.  I have several writing projects in progress including a resource book for parents of infants and infant room teachers in a full day child development (school) program.  The book will provide families with information about what to expect and how to monitor their child's progress in an Infant room.  My second book project involves how to cope with family challenges, lessons in forgiveness, dealing with a spouse's addiction, and reinventing yourself along the way.  I am excited about all of these projects and am currently accepting comments regarding experiences my readers have had placing their child into a full day child care program.  I would also like to hear from Infant room teachers.